Gay sex tips

While this step might sound a little bland or boring, it’s a vital part of foreplay. The beauty of queer sex is how many options we have. Read a book, scroll TikTok, or find your high school enemy on LinkedIn. Pumps are extremely beneficial for those men who have lost erectile function and are looking for a holistic way to reclaim their pleasure.

There is no set time frame or duration that foreplay activities are required to last.

No matter how you identify, we’re here to help you on your bottoming journey.

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Preparing to bottom

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Successful bottoming doesn’t start in the bedroom.

• Fibre-Rich Diet: Your diet plays a significant role in preparation.
  
  Oil-based lube is the slickest but it can damage condoms, making them ineffective.
  
  

  Foreplay

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  Foreplay with hands or toys can help your anal muscles relax enough to bottom.

  

  Ensure you're not preoccupied with cleanliness concerns during the act. This is more likely if you’re new to bottoming, haven’t bottomed in a while or if your partner is bigger than you’re used to. It’s about listening to your body. This is up to each person and their partner. It can take some getting used to.
  
  One way to help your anal muscles relax during sex is to gently "push" out as if you're, you know, pooping.

  You can work this into foreplay or do it yourself. These are ones that give the bottom more control over how fast or deep you go.
  
  Positions where you’re on top, like cowgirl or reverse cowgirl, can be good ones to start with. Read our detailed shaving guide here.

2. It also helps to solidify and reconnect relationships and connections with their partners.

If it’s not, then you shouldn’t force it. If your pain is severe or you see more than a few drops of blood then get medical help immediately. Masturbation can also be part of the foreplay experience, or stand alone as a sexual, pleasure-filled act.

Role Play. Vegetarians often find they need less extensive cleaning due to their fibre-rich diet.

Water-based lubrication is great to use with therapeutic aid devices and sex toys and is safe to use with condoms. Eating more fibre can help keep things moving regularly, which can make douching easier or eliminate the need for it.

To learn more about fibre, check out our guide.

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Toys

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The anal sphincter is a ring of muscle (two rings, if we’re being precise) that controls what goes out and in of your ass.

If you’re using hands, your partner can start with one finger before moving up to two. Without it, you can miss the warning signs and end up hurting yourself.

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What if it’s not working?

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Sometimes bottoming just doesn’t work. This is where you clean out the inside of your ass with water using a special tool (a douche).

You don’t have to douche.

Just don’t do it every day – limit to a few times per week maximum.

To learn more about douching, check out our guide.

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Fibre

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You can also use your diet to prepare for bottoming.